Tuesday, May 8, 2007

It's My first Day Alone

Yesterday, I woke up (naturally), and just like clockwork, reached for my cell phone which was on the nightstand beside my bed. I was halfway through texting "Beh, Gud Morning I Lo.."when I realized something...

"OMFG! I'M SINGLE!!!"

Everything came rushing up to me, the text on the ym messenger window where he scrawled those irritating words that kinda cut deep. The few tears that I shed (okay, it wasn't that few), the attempt at denial, the ever-present "What's wrong with me" monologue with friends, and finally acceptance that your relationship is over. Gone. Zilch. Kaput. Null. Zero.

And now, I realized that I'm single again. Hmm... doesn't feel all that different anyway. Okay, again, I lied. It was different. I can't quite put my finger to it, but something definitely is different. The kind of feeling that you get when you lost a tooth and you felt that empty space in your gum for the first time. Hey! Maybe, that's it. What I was feeling was the emptiness of not having someone in my life. Or maybe of not belonging to someone anymore. Eureka! Hello, Pulitzer guys, I'm ready to accept my award now...?

So, after the rose tinted glasses were off and I clearly saw what I went through, for the first time in my life, I was faced with another question: How do I get over a broken heart?

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Aha!

After careful research (mostly through phone conversations with friends), and evaluation, I came up with my six-picks of surefire ways to get over break-ups.

1. Introduce yourself to the four men you will spend the night with-- namely Bacardi, Jose Cuervo, Carlo Rossi and the Don Perignon... okay, before you start wondering who they are and what the hell are they gonna do with you, let me inform you that these four gentlemen are actually brand of alcohol. hehehe. I'm not saying that you drink yourself well into the second coming. But most agree that a little bit of alcohol calms the nerve. Just don't do a Paris Hilton and drink and drive.


2. Eat. Okay, if you're like me, and eating is your passion, then this is the best way to beat the post-relationship blues. Hey, shrug off the anorexic model mindset, okay? After all, you've just broken up with someone you love. Hell, you earned it. Just eat in moderation okay? Which brings us to item number three…

3. Do something productive-- like cleaning your house, dancing, redecorating, or just enriching your mind like reading a book. This list is endless. It's time to burn those calories form all the munching that you've been doing.

4. Join a group- this could be anything that tweaks your interest. This is your time to get close to God and join church groups. Volunteer if you can in different civic groups. Join a support group if the break up leaves you depressed and lonely. If you’re adventurous and loves nature, then join a mountaineering group or something. Or join that creative writing or drama class that you've been aching to join. Hey, you're single, so this is the perfect opportunity to do the things that you can't do when you're a couple. Learn something new. Broaden your horizons. Besides, you can meet a lot of cuties there.

5. Network. Now that all of your time is not eaten up by your former sweetie, it's time to catch up on friends that you haven't heard from in a while. Burn the phone lines, if you have unlimited texting or calling options, do that as well. Nowadays, communication is easier, thanks to technology. Then there's Friendster, Multiply, Ringo (I just had to include this), Hi-5, yada, yada, yada...

6. Make Over! I've so been dying to write this.. Hehehe. This is the time… to look cuter that ever! Go to your nearest salon and have that latest cut that you've been itching to try since, like, forever. Do the works! Manicure, pedicure, re-bond, color, and everything in-between. Better yet, go to the spa and get those facials, body treatments, massages and oh-so-fab aromatherapy treatment. It's time for a little self-gratification, baby!

Okay, I probably missed something here, so I set up a text brigade on "what to do on your first day alone". And here are what my friends have to say about it:

"edi find a new one.. Hehe.. =p" -- Severski

"Papako ka sa krus para mawala ung pain." -- Jun (Haydee's boyfriend)

"Cry, then move on.." -- Chiqui

"Magpaganda ka lalo and change your image para magtaka at maglaway sila sayo..at saka open your heart sa lahat." -- Arce

"Waaah! Hindi ko rin po alam.. :c cenxa na.. Hirap din po kasi me when it comes to moving on. Huhuhu." -- Arianne

"By finding another that can help you work it out. Hehe. Seriously, by finding the cause or the reason why the relationship failed, and try to change and be better on the next relationship." -- John Dale

"Wala akong alam dyan. Wala pa akong nakakarelasyon eh. Hehe" -- Micrianne

"I'l just try to make myself more good-looking for him to realize it's not my lost." -- Dan

"Oh my hehe.. Make yourself busy kahit mahirap gawin. Try not to think of the "failed relationship" anymore kasi diba, the more you think of it, the more the sinisisi mo sarili mo kung ikaw ba ang nagkulang or something and the more na pinapahirapan mo ang sarili mo.." --Rhea, from CEU Malolos

"Answer of a weirdo: Starting with another one." -- King

"Write all my hatred and burdens in a paper, as in all. Then burn the paper. All of it flow into the air as ashes, reminding me that it's all over." -- Minio

"Unwind, Make yourself busy. Pray. Take time to heal and forgive." -- Haydee

So you've read what my friends have to say. If you have anything more to add, just write it on the comments below. Thanks!

1 comment:

|=[RaPtUsErUm]=| said...

Singlehood still rocks my friend! Support kita dyan.
Mabuhay ang mga singles!